Friday, June 30, 2006

Favorite Things

One of our favorite things about living in Missouri is that we are literally in the middle of everything. People are always coming through on the way to and from somewhere. This was not the case in California. Since it is so far in the west, people rarely came through. They had to make a big point to come out of their way and stop by our home. Since living in the Midwest, we receive many more delightful notifications of someone "coming through". What a honor it is for us to open our home to them for a meal, a day or a week.

Unfortunately, sometimes we forget to take pictures of our company. And then, after they leave we realize we were having so much fun, we didn't take any!! The Schwartz family met us through our blog and since they were coming through town, stopped by for Sunday brunch and worship. Pastor Schwartz serves as a pastor of a Reformed Episcopal church in OK. What a pleasure to meet him, his sweet wife and articulate son Patrick--he knew exactly who he was named after. But after they left, we realized this was the one and only picture we took with someone in their family! : ) Thanks for coming Schwartzes!


Joel and Patrick playing.

We looked high and low for the camera when the Malone children were spending the night, but we could not find it! It was a quick bed and breakfast for their group . . . in fact, our little people were sad that they did not get to meet them, and wondered if they actually came (the kids arrived near mid-night and left at 6 o'clock in the morning--they were off for a music camp in a near by state)!


The McDonalds have several blogs you might enjoy: Mr. McDonald, Christa, Tiffany, Jessica and Caleb.

We did finally remember the camera (!!) when the McDonalds came for a visit. The McDonalds serve the Lord in TX, running several family businesses and speaking on the home-school circuit. We had a delightful sing with their family, swapping our favorite Psalms, introducing them to "Sacred Harp" (southern white gospel from the 1700 and 1800's), and sharing many wonderful hours of conversation.


The Hopkin Ladies

Another bed and breakfast favorite, was the time we had with some of the Hopkins family. The Hopkins family played an important role in our family--when Dad was in seminary, in the late 70's, these ladies's Uncle John was the one who told my Dad to "date Cheryl Macfarlane!", while literally walking out the door to the foreign mission field. Wow. Are we thankful that the Lord brought our parents together to be such wise and loving parents to us. It was great to see the Hopkins again and we hope their whole family can come by again soon.

Thursday, June 22, 2006

Encouraging Signs of Femininity

1. Amy Joe's Modest Dress Exchange

As sisters and mothers, the task of locating feminine and modest clothing can be quite daunting. Here is a new resource to help you find those special garments. Mrs. Amy Howard has started a Forum and Dress Exchange to serve ladies around the country as they search for clothes for their family. Read about it here and visit it here.

2. Wee Maidens

Tired of the feminism of the American Girls Dolls? Already have all the Beautiful Girlhood Dresses? Need a great birthday present for that special little girl in your life? Our friends Sharon and Cindy Sarratt have started a very clever business creating charming 18" doll clothes. These are hand crafted in limited editions. Each outfit comes with accessories and will give your girls hours of creative play.

Visionary Daughters



What a joy to hear Anna Sophia and Elizabeth Botkin this week. They spoke of the importance of honoring parents; shown by obeying them, confiding in them, serving them, and having an inner attitude of respect pouring over towards them. Also, the girls spoke of Christian manners and deportment. Since we are Christ's ambassadors, representing Him rightly to others has application during every minute of our lives. This includes elocution, posture, how to treat brothers and sisters (familial and in the body of Christ), and communication. We hope that they further develop the "Christian Manners" speech in the future . . . perhaps even a book or CD [Editor: hint, hint : )].



Of course we always love to see women in the wider family discipleship community--the "other" Kollers, the dearest Zeses, the Billings, the Botkins, and our favoritest neighbors the Koenigs. Here is a picture of some of the girls at the end of the morning. (We neglected to get a picture earlier on in the brunch when we could have had about 75 people in our photo. Oh well. : )

At Your Request . . .

We have posted more wedding pictures. Enjoy!

God Only Wise



If you stand at the end of a platform on York station, you can watch a constant succession of engine and train movements which, if you are a railway enthusiast, will greatly fascinate you. But you will only be able to form a very rough and general idea of the over all plan in terms of which all these movements are being determined (the operation pattern set out in the working time-table, modified if need be on a minute-to-minute basis according to the actual running of the trains). If, however, you are privileged enough to be taken by one of the high-ups into the magnificent electrical signal-box that lies athwart platforms 7 and 8, you will see on the longest wall a diagram of the entire track layout from 5 miles on either side of the station, with little glow-worm lights moving or stationary on the different tracks to show the signalmen at a glance exactly where every engine and train is. At once you will be able to look at the whole situation through the eyes of the men who control it: you will see from the diagram why it was that this train had to be signalled to a halt, and that one diverted from its normal running line, and that one parked temporarily in a siding. The why and the wherefore of all these movements becomes plain, once you can see the overall position.

Now, the mistake that is commonly made is to suppose that this is an illustration of what God does when He bestows wisdom: to suppose, in other words, that the gift of wisdom consists in a deepened insight into the providential meaning and purpose of events going on around us, an ability to see why God has done what He has done in a particular case, and what He is going to do next. People feel that if they were really walking close to God, so that He could impart wisdom to them freely, then they would, so to speak, find themselves in the signal-box; they would discern the real purpose of everything that happened to them, and it would be clear to them every moment how God was making all things work together for good. Such people spend much time poring over the book of providence, wondering why God should have allowed this or that to take place, whether they should take it as a sign to stop doing one thing and start doing another, or what they should deduce from it. If they end up baffled, they put it down to their own lack of spirituality.

Christians suffering from depression, physical, mental or spiritual (note, these are three different things!) may drive themselves almost crazy with this kind of futile enquiry. For it is futile: make no mistake about that. It is true that when God has given us guidance by application of principles He will on occasion confirm it to us by unusual providences, which we recognize at once as corroborative signs. But this is quite a different thing from trying to read a message about God's secret purposes out of every unusual thing that happens to us. So far from the gift of wisdom consisting in the power to do this, the gift actually presupposes our conscious inability to do it; as we shall see in a moment.

We ask again: what does it mean for God to give us wisdom? What kind of gift is it?



If another transport illustration may be permitted, it is like being taught to drive. What matters in driving is the speed and appropriateness of your reactions to things, and the soundness of your judgment as to what scope a situation gives you. You do not ask yourself why the road should narrow or screw itself into a dogleg wiggle just where it does, nor why that van should be parked where it is, nor why the lady (or gentleman) in front should hug the crown of the road so lovingly; you simply try to see and do the right thing in the actual situation that presents itself. The effect of divine wisdom is to enable you and me to do just that in the actual situations of everyday life.

To drive well, you have to keep your eyes skinned to notice exactly what is in front of you. To live wisely, you have to be clear sighted and realistic--ruthlessly so--in looking at life as it is. Wisdom will not go with comforting illusions, false sentiment, or the use of rose-colored spectacles. Most of us live in a dream world, with our heads in the clouds and our feet off the ground; we never see the world, and our lives in it, as they really are. This deep-seated, sin-bred unrealism is one reason why there is so little wisdom among us--even the soundest and most orthodox of us. It takes more than sound doctrine to cure us of unrealism. There is, however, one book in Scripture that is expressly designed to turn us into realists: and that is the book of Ecclesiastes. We need to pay more heed to its message than we commonly do. . . .

. . . It is to this pessimistic conclusion, says the preacher, that optimistic expectations of finding the divine purpose of everything will ultimately lead you (cf. Ecc. 1:17f.). . . .

Many of us need this admonition. For not only are we caught up with the 'York-signal-box' conception, or misconception, or what wisdom is; we feel that, for the honor of God (and also, though we do not say this, for the sake of our own reputation as spiritual Christians), it is necessary for us to claim that we are, so to speak, already in the signal-box, here and now enjoying inside information as to the why and wherefore of God's doings. This comforting pretence becomes part of us: we fell sure that God has enabled us to understand all His ways with us and our circle thus far, and we take it for granted that we shall be able to see at once the reason for anything that may happen to us in the future. And then something very painful and quite inexplicable comes along, and our cheerful illusion of being in God's secret councils is shattered. Our pride is wounded; we feel that God has slighted us; and unless at this point we repent, and humble ourselves very thoroughly for our former presumption, our whole subsequent spiritual life may be blighted.

Among the seven deadly sins of medieval lore was sloth (accidie)--a state of hard-bitten, joyless apathy of spirit. There is a lot of it around today in Christian circles; the symptoms are personal spiritual inertia combined with critical cynicism about the churches and supercilious resentment of other Christian's initiative and enterprise. Behind this morbid and deadening condition often lies the wounded pride of one who thought he new all about the ways of God in providence and then was made to learn by bitter and bewildering experience that he didn't. This is what happens when we do not heed the message of Ecclesiastes. For the truth is that God in His wisdom, to make and keep us humble and to teach us to walk by faith, has hidden from us almost everything that we should like to know about the providential purposes which He is working out in the churches and in our lives. :As thou knowest not what is the way of the wind, nor how the bones do grow in the womb of her that is with child; even so thou knowest not the work of God who doeth all' (Ecc. 11:5).

But what, in that case, is wisdom? The preacher has helped us to see what it is not; does he give us any guidance as to what it is? Indeed he does, in outline at any rate. 'Fear God, and keep his commandments' (12:13); trust and obey Him, reverence Him, worship Him, be humble before Him, and never say more than you mean and will stand to when you pray to Him (5:1-7); do good (3:12); remember that God will some day take account of you (11:9, 12:14), so eschew, even in secret, things of which you will be ashamed when they come to light at God's assizes (12:14). Live in the present, and enjoy it thoroughly (7:14; 9:7 ff.; 11:9 f.); present pleasures are God's good gifts. Though Ecclesiastes condemns flippancy (cf. 7:4-6), he clearly has no time for the super spirituality which is too proud, or 'pi' [Editor: Politically Incorrect?], ever to laugh and have fun. Seek grace to work hard at whatever life calls you to do (9:10), and enjoy your work as you do it (2:24; 3:12 f.; 5:18 ff.; 8:15). Leave to God its issues; let Him measure its ultimate worth . . .

. . . Such, then, is the wisdom with which God makes us wise. And our analysis of it discloses to us still further the wisdom of the God who gives it. We have said that wisdom consists in choosing the best means to the best end. God's work of giving wisdom is a means to His chosen end of resorting and perfecting the relationship between Himself and men for which He made them. For what is this wisdom that He gives? As we have seen, it is not a sharing in all His knowledge, but a disposition to confess that He is wise, and to cleave to Him and live for Him in the light of His word through thick and then.

Thus the effect of His gift of wisdom is to make us more humble, more joyful, more godly, more quick-sighted as to His will, more resolute in the doing of it and less troubled (not less sensitive, but less bewildered) than we were at the dark and painful things of which our life in this fallen world is full. The New Testament tells us that the fruit of wisdom is Christlikeness--peace, and humility, and love (James 3:17)--and the root of it is faith in Christ (1 Cor. 3:18; cf. 1 Tim. 3:15) as the manifested wisdom of God (1 Cor. 1:24, 30). Thus the kind of wisdom that will bind us to Himself, and wisdom that will find expression in a spirit of faith and a life of faithfulness.

Excerpt from Knowing God by J. I. Packer

Monday, June 19, 2006

Unchanging

"God's ways do not change. He continues to act towards sinful men in the way the He does in the Bible story.

"Still He shows His freedom and lordship discriminating between sinners, causing some to hear the gospel while others do not hear it, and moving some of those who hear to repentance while leaving others in their unbelief; thus teaching His saints that he owes mercy to none, and that it is entirely of His grace, not at all through their own effort, that they themselves have found life.

"Still He blesses those on whom He sets His love in a way that humbles them, so that all the glory may be His alone.

"Still He hates the sins of His people, and uses all kinds of inward and outward pains and griefs to wean their hearts from compromise and disobedience.

"Still He seeks the fellowship of His people, and sends them both sorrows and joys in order to detach their love from other things and attach it to Himself.

"Still He teaches the believer to value His promised gifts by making him wait for them, and compelling him to pray persistently for them, before He bestows them.

"So we read of Him dealing with His people in the Scriptures record, and so He deal with them still. His aims and principles of action remain consistent; He does not at any time act out of character. Man's ways, we know, are pathetically inconsistent--but not God's."

Excerpt from Knowing God, by J. I. Packer.

Thursday, June 15, 2006

Covenant Marriage



Weddings always call for rejoicing. What a privledge to witness the vows of Mark and Amy Stubblefield a little over a week ago. To see God bring together a new family for his glory is an amazing thing.


Some wedding guests.


Maid of Honor and sister of the bride, Amy, Mark, and Best Man Tim Horn.


Guests saying farewell.


May the Lord bless and keep you . . .



We rendezvoused at the fine dining establishment of Smokey Bones after the wedding. Round the table: Rebecca, Beth, Barnes, Darnell, Shannon, Peter, Michael (almost not pictured : ), Brian, and Nathan.

More Pictures of the Wedding:


This daughter is given in marriage.


Presenting the Bride to the Groom.


The wedding party. (Two additional bridesmaids are not pictured).


The Cake.


Cutting the cake. (They were very sweet and did not smash it in each other's faces, in case your were curious) : )

Birthday Boy


Reading stories to some little people in TN

Benjamin is rapidly becoming a man. Always willing to whole heartedly jump into work or play, Ben often amazes us with his thorough knowledge of history (acquired from extensive reading) and brings pleasure to our ears with singing, piano and other musical endeavors. Happy birthday Ben!!


Rototilling our garden this spring

P. S. Can you guess how old Benjamin is today?? Leave a comment with your answer.

Winston Churchill, Hero of England

"Never give in except to convictions of honor and good sense."
Winston Churchill

This last Monday, the Servens (minus Peter) and our grandparents took a trip up to the town of Fulton, Missouri. Their claim to fame is their museum about Winston Churchill on the campus of Westminster College. Churchill gave his famous "Iron Curtain" speech at the campus in 1946.

The museum, housed in a 12th century English church, was a gold mine of amazing facts. Many videos were playing including pictures of the dogfights above London and the Germans march on France. One of the rooms was set up as a bombed city with search lights and explosions. Joel and Andrew enjoyed shooting at the planes that were hung on the ceiling with their toy pistols. Unfortunately, I neglected to take any pictures of the inside of the museum, so you will have to be satisfied with my descriptions.

- Benjamin



This statue is of Churchill.



This church was transported across the ocean, piece by piece in the unusual form of ballast to compose the top of this museum.



This is the inside.



This is a 30' piece of the Berlin wall.



Andrew and...



Joel got a little bored, so they started up a battle to while the time away.

Wednesday, June 07, 2006

Happy Birthday Lydia!!




Sweet Lydia has a birthday today. She always has a ready and willing heart to walk alongside her younger brothers and amazes us with her faithfulness in whatever she sets her hand to do. What a joy to see the Lord working in her life and growing her into a young woman of God. We love you Lyd. : )

Preoccupied

"Not many of us, I think, would ever naturally say that we have known God. The words imply a definiteness and matter-of-factness of experience to which most of us, if we are honest, have to admit that we are still strangers. . . .

. . . Nor, I think, would many of us ever naturally say that in the light of the knowledge of God which we have come to enjoy past disappointments and present heartbreaks, as the world counts heartbreaks, don't matter. For the plain fact is that to most of us they do matter. We live with them as our 'crosses' (so we call them). Constantly we find ourselves slipping into bitterness and apathy and gloom as we reflect on them, which we frequently do. The attitude we show to the world is a sort of dried-up stoicism, miles removed from the 'joy unspeakable and full of glory' which Peter took for granted that his readers were displaying (1 Peter 1:8). 'Poor souls,' our friends say of us, 'how they've suffered'--and that is just what we feel about ourselves!


But these private mock heroics have no place at all in the minds of those who really know God. They never brood on might-have-beens; they never think of the things they have missed, only of what they have gained. 'What things were gain to me, these I have counted loss for Christ,' wrote Paul. 'Yea verily, and I count all things to be loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord: for whom I suffered the loss of all things, and do I count them but dung, that I may gain Christ, and be found in him . . . that I may know him . . .' (Phillippians 3:7-10).


When Paul says he counts the things he lost 'dung', he means not merely that he does not think of them as having any value, but also that he does not live with them constantly in his mind: what normal person spends his time nostalgically dreaming of manure? Yet this, in effect, is what many of us do. It shows how little we have in the way of true knowledge of God. . . .

. . . the question is, can we say, simply, honestly, not because we feel that as evangelicals we ought to, but because it is plain matter of fact, that we have known God, and that because we have known God the unpleasantness we have had, or the pleasantness we have not had, though being Christians does not matter to us? If we really knew God, this is what we would be saying, and if we are not saying it, that is a sign that we need to face ourselves more sharply with the difference between knowing God and merely knowing about Him.

We have said that when a man knows God, losses and 'crosses' cease to matter to him; what he has gained simply banishes these things from his mind."

Excerpt from Knowing God by J. I. Packer


"When my soul was embittered, when I was pricked in heart,
I was brutish and ignorant; I was like a beast before you.
Nevertheless, I am continually with you; you hold my right hand.
You guide me with your counsel,
and afterward you will receive me to glory.
Whom have I in heaven but You?
And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides you.
My flesh and my heart may fail,
but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.
For behold those who are far from you shall perish;
you put an end to everyone who is unfaithful to you.
But for me it is good to be near God;
I have made the Lord God my refuge, that I may tell of all your works."
Psalm 73: 23-28

Saturday, June 03, 2006

A Man for These Times



"As home education is to the family, so hospitality is to the church."
Kevin Swanson

Kevin Swanson is a prophet in the best sense of the word. One of the first modern home-educated students, a father of 5 and pastor shepherd to an OPC church, he is in a unique position to address the concerns of our generation. What an pleasure to host him this past week along with his son and assistant Chad Roach.

Topics for the day revolved around the vital nature of biblical relationships. The Peace Maker makes Mr. Swanson's list of top 5 books and addresses the crucial issue of conflict resolution and biblically based Christ honoring relationships.

The evils of the classroom, "life integration" or education outside of the classroom, seminaries, the Greek educational model, and other methodological issues were discussed. We look forward to reading his book Upgrade on these subjects.

"Debt is like the measles. It's not wicked to have it, it's just bad." This opened up a conversation regarding a biblical view of debt. Someday, we hope to see the book published that Mr. Swanson wrote as a young man.

When we asked Mr. Swanson about the challenges facing the next generation he cooly replied "Nuclear War", then laughing said, "Now that's one way to shut down a conversation, isn't it!?" As we continued talking, he predicted radical decentralization over the next 40-80 years and challenged us to rise to the task giving hope through Christ to the people around us. [Editor: Scroll down on Kevin's blog to read the post "What the Future Holds for Our Children" which explains some of his ideas on this subject].

Swansons, thanks so much for taking time to stop and see us. May God bless you as you continue proclaim the biblical message of a faith integrated life.

Friday, June 02, 2006

Botanical Garden

Recently Dad, Mom, the younger four, and I (Ben) took a trip to the Missouri Botanical Gardens. We had a very enjoyable time as we strolled through the many gardens and orchards spread over the area.


This picture is of the Boxwood Garden.


Sarah, Lydia, Andrew, and Joel.


There was a very unusual display called Glass in the Garden. It was (as you may pick up) blown glass placed underneath (or inside of) select plants which created a very unusual look.

I hope that all of you enjoyed my first post!
-Ben